Guidance

10 Ways to Be More Productive During an Argument or When Trying to Express Yourself

1) Listen to what your spouse has to say, even if you disagree! Hold back from interrupting because quite frankly, it is very rude to interrupt people when they are trying to express themselves, even if they are expressing themselves in a negative way.

2) If there is anything ambiguous that your spouse said to you then have them clear it up so you do understand. What’s the use in listening if you aren’t really hearing?

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God’s Role in Eating Disorder Recovery: Grace

Have you considered allowing God to have a greater role in your eating disorder recovery, but you find that something is holding you back? Perhaps you feel guilty over your eating disorder behaviors or maybe you feel unworthy of God’s help. If you do feel like this, please remember that you can’t earn His help anyway, but that you can be a recipient of His grace.

God’s work in our lives is not dependent on us. In other words, we don’t earn, and we can’t earn, what He gives to us. As we enter into a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and become believers, it is a result of His grace, not because of anything we can do ourselves. We see this clearly spelled out in Ephesians 2:8-9, For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God. From this time forward, we would do well to remember this same favor remains with us. We don’t earn God’s help, His blessings or His strength. Instead, we realize that He blesses us because He loves us.

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How Can an Angry Person Help Themself?

Understand how to let go of emotions in productive ways. Remember there is always an underlying reason for deep-seated anger. Once you realize why you become angry, take the needed steps to heal yourself from within so you can be a better communicator and express yourself in productive ways rather than in violent ways. Pray about your anger. Sincerely ask God to help you understand better ways to express yourself and to not allow your emotions to control you.

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What Can You Do To Help Your Angry Spouse?

Anger never resolves issues. If you live with an angry spouse you should learn to detach so the anger won’t gobble you up with it. Anytime you retaliate with angry and abusive words back to an angry person you’re fueling the fire. Simply walk away. You want to put the fire out, not rekindle it. Anyone who lives with an angry person needs to learn how to emotionally detach from the anger. Don’t let the abuse control how you feel or control what you do, or control your behaviors.

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Step 4 – Defensive Self-righteousness

As you take inventory you will be tempted to become defensive. Our life patterns are part of us. When we start to look at them honestly for the first time in our lives, our immediate reaction is to dig in our heels and try to justify our past behavior.

In the fourth step you have to be relentlessly honest. You have to look at yourself objectively and refuse to defend anything that is wrong in your life (past or present). The first step out of your dark pit and into the light and victory starts with complete honesty.

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PSTD: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

** Have you, or someone you love Been through combat?
** Lived through a disaster?
** Been raped?
** Experienced any other kind of traumatic event?

Have you ever thought that painful memories of that experience were still causing problems for you or a loved one?

You may have heard of PTSD—posttraumatic stress disorder—on the news or from friends and family, and wondered what it is, or whether you or someone you know has it. This booklet will help you understand what PTSD is.

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Anger and the Alcoholic/Addict

Anger is a normal emotion everyone feels at times. But unbridled anger can be disastrous for the alcoholic/addict and their loved ones. If anger is allowed to get out of hand it can even trigger a relapse.

Identifying the Problem
If you are an addict or alcoholic frustration and anger can be caused because you may feel your rights are being ignored or your needs are not being met.

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Bible Verses for Those with Binge Eating Disorder

Even if you have binge eating disorder, the Bible has principles applicable to your recovery. Please know that God can speak to you through His Word and help you in your recovery. Let Him help you as you strive to break free of binge eating disorder.

Do you find that you sometimes stuff yourself with food because you are also stuffing your emotions? Do your feelings make you so uncomfortable that you turn to food in an attempt to avoid feeling them? Perhaps you never learned healthy ways of expressing your emotions or never felt it was safe to let out your feelings. But as you no doubt have realized, the inner pain does not just go away on its own.

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Does Your Husband Lack Affection?

Ask Angie: My husband was raised without anyone showing affection and love. I on the other hand, need it. How do I teach him?

Marriage Guidance: I hope that you did not marry your husband in the hopes that you could change him. We can’t change others to meet our needs — it will not work, especially if that is the way they were raised. This is not to say that people cannot change for the better but this kind of change happens through Christ. When one spouse demands and controls a behavior of the other all it creates is resentment and animosity between them.

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How To Bring Intimacy Back Into Your Marriage

Everyday my husband and I will take a long walk together, alone, away from the children, and with no distractions of any kind whatsoever. I call these walks together “special time”. We do this because we don’t want to lose touch with each other; we want to remain close. I believe all couples should dedicate themselves to having special time with their spouse one hour each day.

You don’t have to take walks to enjoy special time. You might want to meet somewhere, for instance. That meeting might be in a café or on a park bench. It doesn’t matter where you are when you have special time, what does matter is that you make special time an intimate moment for the both of you. It is so easy to lose touch with the person we married. Don’t let that happen to you and your spouse.

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