Falling into codependency is a real danger for both sponsors and sponsees in recovery. First, some definitions to clarify what is being discussed here:
Sponsors / Recovery Buddies
Do not overlook the value of Recovery Buddies and Accountability Partners!
Did you know that studies have proven that one horse pulling alone can pull 2,500 pounds. But that two horses pulling together can pull 12,500 pounds! That is not twice but 5 times the amount of weight that one horse alone can pull!
Now think about that in terms of your recovery. You may not be able to overcome temptation by yourself, but you will be more than strong enough if you call on your recovery buddy for a little extra help.
1. I will not help you stay and wallow in Limbo.
2. I will help you to grow, to become more productive, by your definition.
3. I will help you become more autonomous, more loving of yourself, more excited,
less sensitive, more free to continue becoming the authority for your own living.
Reach Out To Individuals
We all know someone who needs help. Reach out to them just as Christ would. These tips will help you get started.
- Ask God to lead you to those who are in need of help or direction in recovery. Pray that He will give you the right words of hope and encouragement for these people.
- People in need of recovery need something tangible. Hand those in need of help a handout (CIR brochure, inspirational cards, Bible Guide Card, ruler, etc.)
- Be a good listener. Let them do the talking and tell you their needs first. Then you will be better equipped to help them. Talking over a cup of coffee or while taking a walk is helpful.
Many readers find the instructions for STEP FOUR in the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous, confusing and complex. This guide is written to reflect the experience of several members of the fellowship of Alcoholics
Please click on the type of Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book file you want below.
1. Ask God to fill you with His Holy Spirit before you approach the other person. God does not ask you to witness on your own!
2. Ask God to open the eyes and ears of the other person and make them a willing listener with an open heart.
3. Share on their level.
4. Address their needs. They have needs. Find out what they are. Perhaps you are in recovery from the same difficulty. Tell them how you had problems, what happened when Christ became part of the equation and how things are now.
5. Show them Christ by example–the way you live in everyday life. Let them observe how you handle situations, people, etc. doing things the way Jesus would do them.