Frequently Asked Questions

My husband gets angry sometimes and hits me. What can I do?

My husband and I are both Christians, but he gets angry sometimes and has hit me before. What can I do?

God’s plan for every marriage, especially a Christian one, is peace and love. He intends for the husband to love his wife as Christ loves the Church (see Ephesians 5). God has called every husband to spiritual leadership in the family and He has called every wife to submission to that leadership. When this model is not practiced, family members are robbed of the joy that the Lord has planned for them in their Christian home.

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My husband is verbally mean to me. What can I do about it?

My husband is verbally mean to me. What can I do about it?

Often, people are verbally abusive with derogatory statements, insults and negativity because of personal feeling of inadequacy. Some people truly believe that the only time they can look good is when the others around them look bad. I can think of a specific personal instance in which a friend of mine married a man who always put her down in public. My immediate reaction was always that his actions made him look small and quite inferior.

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I just want to end my pain. Is it wrong to feel that way?

I am in constant pain. Sometimes, I just want to be out of my misery, whatever it takes. Is it wrong to feel that way?

It is not wrong to want to be in God’s presence, free from the effects of this world. It isn’t wrong to desire relief from your physical ailments either. But, suicidal thoughts are symptoms of a lack of hope and trust in the Lord. He has a perfect purpose for you, even in the midst of your ailment.

God loves you so much and He has a plan for you, even in the midst of your suffering. Look at what He accomplished through Jesus’ suffering. He can still use you to bless those around you as the watch your strong witness for Christ.

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I just found out that I have AIDS. What do I do?

I just found out that I have AIDS. What do I do?

This must be a difficult and very scary time for you. Have you given your life to the Lord? Have you trusted Jesus to be your Savior and friend? If not, you need to. He wants to trade burdens with you. In Matthew 11:30, He says, “For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” If you turn to the Lord, you still will have AIDS but you will have the assurance that Jesus Christ, himself, will help you by carrying the burden for you. He will get you through it. And then you will spend eternity with Him in Heaven.

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Why won’t my parents let me grow up and have more freedom?

Why won’t my parents let me grow up and have more freedom?

Growing up is very difficult—for both you and your parents. They remember a little bundle of joy that they held and nurtured as a baby and now they see a budding adult. These days, children face things and know about things that their parents would never have imagined at the same age. The teenagers of today look older, act older and want to be older than their counterparts did just 20 years ago. It is the desire of all Christian parents that their children know Christ at an early age and then walk with Him for the rest of their lives. They are called by God to work towards that end.

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Do I need to set limits with my child?

Do I need to set limits with my child?

Yes. They need those fences. They need to know the difference between right and wrong. This shows them that you care. Children who are not looked after by their parents, those who roam free, tend not to have any morals or convictions when dealing with right or wrong. They cannot cope in the real world.

“Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it” (Prov. 22:6).

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I recently lost a family member. How can I get over my grief?

I recently lost a family member. How can I get over my grief?

One of the hardest crosses to bear in this life is losing a loved one. “If only we could have one more day…” That is a common theme in the life of a surviving spouse or family member. It becomes even more difficult to bear when there is some type of guilt that lingers. “I wish I had just…”

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Should we teach our kids that it is good to fight back?

In what circumstances, if any, do we teach our kids that it is good to fight back?

There is a big difference between defending and protecting oneself from severe harm and seeking revenge. Differentiating between these two extremes is very difficult for a child. That is why Christians have maintained a standard of not fighting back. Children, by human nature, will almost always lash out at their enemy, even if they are not in any danger. They become angry and unreasonable in the face of a wrongdoing directed toward them.

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If I have an addiction, can I still be saved?

If I have an addiction, can I still be saved?

Yes! We are not called to perfect ourselves before we come to God. If we could do that, then Jesus could have spared himself the agony of dying of the cross in payment for our sins. He would have simply instructed us to live sin-free lives. He knew, though, that man is utterly incapable of cleansing himself, as demonstrated throughout the Old Testament.

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