| (1). Focus on the failure of others | (1). Are overwhelmed with their own spiritual need (Matthew 5:3, 7:3-5, Luke 18:9-14)
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| (2). Are self righteous; have a critical, fault finding spirit; look at own life/faults with a telescope but others with a microscope | (2). Are compassionate; have a forgiving spirit; look for the best in others (Ephesians 4:32, Colossians 3:12)
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| (3). Look down, in a condescending spirit, at others | (3). Esteem all others as better than self (Phil. 2:3, Rom. 12:10)
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| (4). Are independent; have desires for everyone else to meet own personal needs | (4). Are dependent on God and His grace; recognize others’ needs and seek to meet them (2 Cor. 3:4-6, Phil. 2:4)
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| (5). Always manipulating circumstances to maintain control; must have everyone do it their way | (5). Surrenders control by giving freedom for others to do or see things differently (Rom. 12:1-2)
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| (6). Have to prove they are always right | (6). Are willing to yield to the possibility that they could be wrong, and thus, yield the need to always prove they are right(Rom. 15:2)
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| (7). Claiming personal rights | (7). Yielding personal rights (Eph. 5:21)
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| (8). Display a demanding spirit | (8). Have a giving spirit (Rom. 12:13)
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| (9). Self-protective of time, rights, reputation | (9). Are self-denying (Luke 9:23)
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| (10). Desire to be served | (10). Are motivated to serve others (Matt. 20:26-28, Phil. 2:20-21)
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| (11). Desire to be a success | (11). Desire to be faithful to make others a success (John 3:30)
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| (12). Desire for self-advancement | (12) Desire to promote others (John 3:3)).
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| (13). Are driven to be recognized and appreciated | Have a sense of unworthiness; are thrilled to be used at all; eager for others to get credit, honors and awards (I Tim. 1:12-16)
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| (14). Cringe when others in the same field are praised, wishing it was them | (14). Rejoice when others are lifted up (Rom. 12:15)
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| (15). Think ‘the ministry is privileged to have me!’ | (15). Think ‘I don’t deserve to serve in this ministry (2 Cor. 4:7)
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| (16). Think of what they can do for God | (16). Know they can offer nothing to God, and seek for God to work through them in His power (Phil. 3:8-9, Titus 3:5)
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| (17). Feel confident in how much they know | (17). Are humbled by how much they have not learned and wish to learn (Phil. 3:12, Prov. 1:7)
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| (18). Are self conscious | (18). Have little concern with how others view them (Gal. 1:10)
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| (19). Keep people at arm’s length | (19). Risk getting close to others; are willing to take those risks for the sake of love for others (2 Cor. 6:11-12)
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| (20). Are quick to blame others | (20). Accept personal responsibility; can see and acknowledge personal failure (Matthew 7)
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| (21). Are concerned with being ‘respectable’ | (21). Are concerned with being real (2 Cor. 4:3-5).
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| (22). Are concerned about what others think | (22). Know all that matters is God and what He knows (I Cor. 4:3-5)
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| (23). Work hard to maintain image and protect reputation | (23). Die to own reputation (Phil. 3:7, Rom. 14:7)
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| (24). Find it difficult to share their spiritual needs with others | (24). Are willing to be transparent with others (2 Cor. 1:12)
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| (25). Want to be sure no one finds aout about their sin | Are willing to acknowledge and confess one’s sin; brokenness is the ultimate sign of personal success (Ps. 51:17)
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| (26). Have a hard time saying, ‘I was wrong. Will you forgive me’ | Are quick to admit fault and seek forgiveness (I John 1:9, James 5:1)
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| (27). Deal in generalities when confession sin | (27). Deal in specifics (Ps. 51:17)
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| (28). Are concerned about the consequences of their sin | (28). Are grived over the root of their sin (Ps. 51:5)
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| (29). Wait for other party to come and ask forgiveness in a conflict | (29). Take the initiative to be reconciled; gets their first (Matthew 5:23-24)
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| (30). Compare themselves with others and feel deserving of honore | (30). Compare themselves with God and feel desparate for mercy (Luke 18:9-14)
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| (31). Are blind to their true heart condition | (31). Walk in the light of true knowledge concerning their own hearts (I John 1:6-7).
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| (32). Do not display any spirit of repentance, because they don’t need it | (32). Continually display a spirit of repentance, sensing their need for fresh encounters with God and the filling of the Holy Spirit (Eph. 5;18), Gal 5:16)
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| (33). Spent time reading these words and wondering if _____________ was reading it | (33). Thanked the Lord for using words on the internet to bring brokenness to their lives.
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