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Teamwork of Marriage

When you get married you become connected with another person in such a way that everything you do, constructive or destructive affects the other person, and everything they do, good or bad affects you. So then knowing this, we should know that when we abuse the marriage in any way it would affect the both of you. What is God’s purpose for you as a married person? I believe He wants His children to encourage and support one another through the difficult times as well as the good.

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Assertiveness in Marriage

Anyone can be assertive but it involves practice. We can’t just one day say, “Hey I’m going to be assertive today.” We have to realize the times when we need to be assertive and practice it.

In marriage there are many times when we need to be assertive with our spouse. We may need to let them know how we FEEL for instance. Being assertive is good for marriage. I’ll tell you why.

    1. It lets our spouse know how we feel

    2. It tells our spouse that we have self confidence in what we do

    3. It allows us to have what we need and want

    4. We become more self assured in everything we do

Assertiveness isn’t being aggressive, rude or violent. Assertiveness is expressing our self properly by telling others what we want and who we are.

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I ASKED God and He SAID

I asked God to take away my addictions and behaviors.­
God said, No.­
It is not for me to take away, but for you to give it up.­

I asked God to make my handicapped child whole.­
God said, No.­
His spirit is whole, his body is only temporary­

I asked God to grant me patience.­
God said, No.­
Patience is a byproduct of tribulations;
it isn’t granted, it is learned.­

I asked God to give me happiness.­
God said, No.­
I give you blessings; Happiness is up to you.­

I asked God to spare me pain.­
God said, No.­
Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares
and brings you closer to me.­

I asked God to make my spirit grow.­
God said, No.­
You must grow on your own! ,
but I will prune you to make you fruitful.­

I asked God for all things that I might enjoy life.­

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Submission to Others

Romans 15:1-2, 5-7
We then who are strong ought to bear with the scruples of the weak, and not to please ourselves. Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, leading to edification. . . . Now may the God of patience and comfort grant you to be like-minded toward one another, according to Christ Jesus, that you may with one mind and one mouth glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore receive one another, just as Christ also received us, to the glory of God.

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Marriage: Taking Responsibility For Your Actions

If you do something against your marriage, you need to take responsibility for your actions. Don’t say your spouse made you have an affair. How often do I hear, “I had an affair because my wife did”. Or, “I won’t have sex with him because he is controlling me.” “I want a divorce because my husband looks at pornography.” “My wife is an alcoholic and will never stop drinking, so I am having an affair, I deserve it.”

All of the above common marital situations can be rectified and you can both learn from these mistakes and grow into a more loving and giving marriage partner for each other.

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How Should We Pray as a Couple?

Your Father knows what you need before you ask him. This then is how you should pray:
Our Father in Heaven, Hallowed Be Your Name Matthew 6:9 NIV

God is our loving Father and is not only majestic and holy, but also a personal and loving God. God is in Spirit everywhere and to all people all the time. When we become believers, we are making a personal commitment to honor His holy name in everything that we do. It is not our achievements but the workings of God in us.

Your Kingdom Come, Your Will Be Done on Earth as it is in Heaven. Matthew 6:10 NIV

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Difficult Biblical Passages for Jehovah’s Witnesses

1. 1 John 5:1 – Teaches that ALL who believe in Jesus are born again–not just a sub group (i.e., the “144,000”)

2. Isaiah 43:10 – Teaches that ‘no G/god was/will be created before or AFTER the one true God’ (contra their teaching that Jesus is “a god” created before creation).

3. Isaiah 6 in relationship to John 12, proving the deity of Christ. See Isaiah 6 on this web site.

4. James 1:27 – Pure and undefiled religion to visit orphans and widows. JWs completely neglect works of mercy, instead spending all of their organization’s resources on spreading their ideas.

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Weary Yet Pursuing

Then Gideon and the 300 men who were with him came to the Jordan {and} crossed over, weary yet pursuing. Judges 8:4, NASB(emphasis added).

The story about Gideon and his meager band of men defeating a massive enemy gathering is always inspiring to me. First, I’m reminded that no battle is ever won in my own strength. Second, I’m encouraged by the fact that nothing is impossible with God.

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The Church of the First Adam

Until about seven months ago (suspiciously around the time of the presidential election), I never paid much attention to the messages blazoned on the backside of the car in front of me. Lately, however, it seems that bumper stickers have become the last bastion of free speech—the final frontier of public politically incorrect expression. As I was making my way home from work the other evening I saw one that got my attention. It was simple in its design: a website address in white letters on a black background. It was the name of the website that really got me thinking—churchcanbefun.com

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Do You Feel Your Sins Cut You Off From God and All Hope of Change?

This is written for those who say:
“The things I have done and said weigh on my heart like a mountain of lead. This burdens me and keeps me from Christ. My sins cut me off from all hope of heaven. I am afraid that my past eagerness to relish my behavior has so twisted my mind, seared my conscience, and hardened my heart–that I will never be able to repent with any hope of pardon!”

But I answer you,
Is your sin greater than wicked King Manasseh’s, who “sacrificed his own son in the fire, practiced witchcraft and divination, and consulted mediums and spiritists”? (2 Kings 21:2-7)

Is your sin greater than Paul’s drinking up the blood of saints?

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