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When a Sponsor/Sponsee Relationship Goes Bad

Everyone can benefit from a good Sponsor/Sponsee relationship. It can be invaluable to have a recovery buddy with whom you are accountable. There are many benefits of sponsorship. A sponsor/recovery buddy should be an emotional safe haven who provides support and guidance.

Some recovery relationships simply peter out because of family obligations, conflicting goals, stress at work or lack of shared values. Others might be destroyed by deceit or manipulation on the part of one or both parties.

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Balancing Priorities in Marriage

Question:I badly need help. My husband is not the same person I knew 10 years back. We have two children and he works up to late everyday, I have tried to check several times whether he is in office and indeed he is always there. He has no time for me or the children, he gets irritated over small issues, does not want to help in the house the few hours he’s available, we don’t have holidays as a family, he never gives anything to my parent, never calls any of my relatives, his friends send messages calling me all sorts of names, does not buy me anything, does not have time to pray with the family. What can I do?
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Denial Needs to Go

Denial is actually a defense mechanism implemented to protect us, to keep the mind solvent in lieu of perceived danger. It’s a form of personalized reframing, neuro-linguistic manipulation meant to increase survivability. Yet many of us turn it into a catalyst which allows us to continue our voluntary journey into perdition.

Denial is the ability to lie to one’s self in the face of overwhelming evidence to the contrary. It is the ability to delude one’s self with reasonable to superb success. Only when denial diminishes does character take root.

And, once again, character is identified and maintained by one’s personal beliefs.

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A Prayer

“Thy will be done”
A prayer
A repositioning
Suppositioning
Divine concern

“On earth”
Our dust
Ether’s thickening
Gravely turned

“As it is”
As it was
As it always
Will be

“In heaven”
Our leaven
May we rise
With Thee.

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When a Spouse Says They Are Not “In Love” with You Anymore

The truth is ALL marriages go through a period of time, usually after a year or two of marriage where the feelings of love seem to be lost…but it is not love that is lost but those giddy feelings that a person has when they experience a new relationship. Love can’t be lost because love is not a feeling but something you do! When a husband says he lost love for his wife, he means to say, “I want that feeling back so I can love my wife”. Couples BASE their marriage on how they feel rather than principled acts of love.

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The 3 Biggest Secrets For Staying Married For Life

Managing your marriage doesn’t have to be difficult. It takes a few initiatives on your part to get yourself into the proper prospective of how marriage really works. Marriage is about living your purpose and attaining your goals that are related to that purpose.

1. Marriage Takes Team Players

Marriage takes team players working together to accomplish the same objectives. It doesn’t matter what those goals are, but what does matter is how you play the game. For an example, a wife should not go her own way, and not consider her husband and the husband should not go his own way without considering his wife. What is that anyway? That’s not the intention of Gods design for marriage. I think that’s downright selfishness.

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Have You Really Fallen Out of Love With Your Spouse?

Why do we use the words, “fall in love” or “fall out of love”? What does it really mean to be “in love” with someone? First of all, understand that you cannot fall “in love” or fall “out of love”. Love just becomes what it is when two people spend a lot of time together and get to know each other.

Marriage thrives on intimacy and closeness with one another and when that declines or discontinues couples feel they are no longer “in love” with their spouse, even though they still care for and love their spouse. So what does that mean? It means they are confused about what love really is.

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Healing Alcoholism

To everyone, who is afflicted by the insidiousness of alcohol. Please share this important information with the alcoholic you love and work together to overcome addiction to alcohol. Addiction is a family affair and that means the whole family should be involved in the process of its healing in all areas, physical, emotional and spiritual.

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Perseverance in Christian Eating Disorder Recovery

Does perseverance in your eating disorder recovery seem impossible? Are you often tempted to give up? Do you grow weary of the ups and downs of the recovery process?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, please know that many others have walked and do walk in your shoes. Eating disorder recovery is challenging, and it can take a toll on us. I know it did on me. I felt like I was running a race, and yet I felt so tired and like my legs were cramping up. I couldn’t imagine crossing the finish line. There can be many weary moments in eating disorder recovery. However, that does not mean that it isn’t possible. Perseverance really can be a reality.

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Scriptural Prayers for Those with Eating Disorders

Do you sometimes struggle to know how to pray about your eating disorder recovery? Do words simply escape you sometimes? If so, it’s okay. But please know that you can always start by just picturing yourself with Him and coming into His presence. Plus, you can always pray Scriptures. Maybe you would like to highlight some scriptural prayers in your Bible or even write down some of them so you can have them with you.

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