Did you know that the better you feel about your life, the better spouse you will be. The best way to be a good spouse is to take care of YOU first. You are your best friend when it comes to your health and emotional well-being–physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Are you taking care of you? Last week I talked to several different women who were experiencing health difficulties like bipolar syndrome, addiction, diabetes, and heart problems.
These were young women only in their thirties, forties and fifties! They went on to tell me that these health issues are affecting their marriage in a negative way. This is very sad because having poor health or even becoming sick with something can not only put a big strain on the person who is sick but on the loved one and caregiver as well.
It doesn’t really matter what the health condition is. It can be irritable bowel syndrome or it can be co-dependence issues. If you are not healthy physically, spiritually, or emotionally it will take a toll on your marriage.
How can we be good to others when we can’t even be good to ourselves? We have to take care of our health so we can be positive, joyful, and productive people for our spouse and everyone else that we have a relationship with. No one likes to be around someone who is physically, mentally or emotionally unwell. And no one is surely going to take the steps to make you well but you! Health and well being is our responsibility!
So what can you do? You can do the research about a particular illness you may have been diagnosed with; you can look for alternative therapies to your health; you can talk with a nutritionist about your health instead of a medical doctor; you can cleanse your entire system of toxins; you can find a good trustworthy friend that you can confide in about your mental health; and you can ask God into your life and allow Him to give you hope, wisdom, and knowledge.
Did you know that 60% of people who are diagnosed with bipolar syndrome really don’t have bipolar syndrome? Now that’s scary. What’s even scarier is that attention deficient disorders, bipolar, and hypoglycemia mimic many of the same symptoms. If I were diagnosed with any health condition I would take a careful look into what I am eating and drinking on a daily basis.
1. How often do you do physical activity? Never, sometimes, or often
If you said often, then that is great! Now just start eating a more natural diet. That means, if it is not a natural, whole food then simply don’t eat it. Start cooking more if you don’t already, and limit your red meat intake to about two times a week. The body does not need meat on a regular basis. As a matter of fact, protein is one of the easiest vitamins to get because it is in so many of our foods. Try legumes, nuts and seeds for part of your protein needs.
2. How often do you eat packaged processed food items? Rarely, sometimes, or often
If you said rarely, then that’s great too. But if you said often, then I have to ask, why? There are limited nutrients in processed packaged foods. Refined flour is what’s making people sick with sugar spikes, (diabetes), gluten intolerance, allergies, and IBS symptoms. You would be so much healthier just by making or buying whole wheat bread and never eating another processed package food product ever again.
3. How often do you eat live, raw food, such as fruits, fruit juicing, sprouts, dark greens, or cruciferous vegetables such as broccoli, cabbage or kale? Rarely, sometimes, or often?
If you said often, then congratulations. You are doing your body and mind good. But if you said rarely than it might be a good idea to start incorporating more of these excellent nutritious filled foods into your diet on a daily basis. If you cook your vegetables, always be sure to only lightly steam. Cooked vegetables do not retain the vitamins and minerals that your body needs.
5. Would you say that you are a generally happy person? Yes, maybe, or no
I hope you said yes! But if you said no, then it is time to do something about that. When we don’t feel good about ourselves, or our life it is usually because we feel as if our life is in a standstill and without purpose or reason. Or maybe we feel useless or unhappy in our marriage. But let me tell you this.
Everyone has a purpose in this life, to do and be the best they can be, through Christ. We shouldn’t try to be the best we can through ourselves, but what Christ blesses us with. God gives us wisdom, knowledge and love and our relationship with Him is what makes us happy. When you are happy that happiness will reflect back onto others in positive and productive ways.
Jesus said, “Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive, and your joy will be complete.” (John 16:24)