Are you witnessing a decline in your family’s lifestyle and overall happiness? Maybe you are the culprit.
As your tolerance level for your drug of choice or habit increases, more and more of the substance or act is needed to get the desired effect. Though your behavior is now having an obvious negative effect on you and those around you, they rationalize, excuse and minimize the problems just as you do.
Once they’ve had enough of what they’re doing – enabling – caring family members now are truly alarmed by your behavior. Sometimes they raise their voices and demand change, and other times they remain quiet waiting for the problem to go away.
When they help, they feel indispensable, but when they fail, they feel shame and helpless.
Gradually developing a compulsion to repair you, the family members and their lives revolve around the loved one’s problems – but they try to avoid the problem like the plague.
To help them, get some help for yourself.