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Wednesday, February 22nd, 2012
I’m willing to accept wisdom wherever I can find it, even if the source is an egg-shaped philosopher named Humpty Dumpty. Whenever I struggle to understand a word I’m reminded of this conversation from Lewis Carroll’s Through The Looking Glass:
“When I use a word,” Humpty Dumpty said, in rather a scornful tone, “it means just what I choose it to mean — neither more nor less.”
“The question is,” said Alice, “whether you can make words mean so many different things.”
“The question is,” said Humpty Dumpty, “which is to be master — that’s all.”
As I write and speak about RICH’S RIDE I use the term “dream” a lot. It’s a tricky word because it means different things to different people. That’s the sort of confusion that leads to a muddled message and a lot of misunderstanding.
I think Humpty Dumpty’s correct. I can use the word “dream” to mean just what I choose it to mean. But I need to clarify exactly what that is.
So I’ve been wrestling with what I mean by “dream.” I’d appreciate your feedfack.
A dream is the God-inspired desire to share your unique gifts and passions to serve and make a difference in the world.
Think of a personal dream. Does this sentence describe your experience? What’s missing? What doesn’t belong?
What do you think of this definition of a “dream”?
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Copyright 2008-2012 by Rich Dixon, All Rights Reserved. Used by permission.
Rich is an author and speaker. He is the author of: 
Relentless Grace: God’s Invitation To Give Hope Another Chance. Visit his web site www.relentlessgrace.com
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Tuesday, February 21st, 2012
I watched a big chunk of Whitney Houston’s memorial service this weekend. I can’t escape the haunting sense of enormous waste.

After the songs and stories, Pastor Marvin Winans captured my thoughts with the theme of his powerful, emotional sermon: prioritize. He talked about “putting things in proper order” based on Matthew 6:33:
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
The message was clear. Success, talent, and fame are good things—when placed in proper priority. It’s too easy to judge the missteps of a public figure who got lost in a confusing maze. Better, I think, to extend grace and pray that the rest of us will reflect on our own tendency to get things in the wrong order.
Jesus knew that God wants us to use our gifts and pursue our passions. He designed us for lives of abundance and joy. He also knew that life gets out of whack when we don’t prioritize.
Have a great week.
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Copyright 2008-2012 by Rich Dixon, All Rights Reserved. Used by permission.
Rich is an author and speaker. He is the author of: 
Relentless Grace: God’s Invitation To Give Hope Another Chance. Visit his web site www.relentlessgrace.com
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Monday, February 20th, 2012
Do you have a “favorite” Bible passage?
I like ice cream. A lot. I like lots of other things—baseball and dogs and riding my bike. But I REALLY LIKE ice cream.
So I struggle in an ice cream shop that offers dozens of choices. They’re all wonderful and choosing one means rejecting the rest. I want that one… no, that one, no …
That’s sort of how it feels when someone asks, “What’s your favorite Bible passage?”
However, I can clearly identify the passage that impacted me most powerfully the first time I really heard its message. I can still see where I sat and feel what I felt when I heard these words:
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.
The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the one and only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth. John 1:1,14
For me these words capture the profound mystery of my faith, the juxtaposition of infinite and personal, the miracle of God becoming man. These verses remind me that this notion of following Jesus is boundless and miraculous and beyond my comprehension.
When I read these words, I imagine a box. Maybe it’s a big box or a small one, but the box represents what we do with Jesus. Since we can’t comprehend an infinite reality, we put Him in a box that represents the small part we can get our minds around.
Then we pretend that the box is all that is. Jesus becomes doctrine, a particular collection of political policies, a national interest, and whatever else we decide to place in the box.
We reduce Jesus to something understandable and therefore more manageable. We’d prefer not being challenged too much or pushed too far from our comfort zone.
The box transforms infinite personal mystery into finite ideology that conforms to our agenda. We worship what’s in the box, our self-created perception of Jesus.
That’s idol worship. Doesn’t matter which box, how big, or what’s in it.
The goal isn’t to create a more accurate box or a bigger box or a more inclusive box. The goal is to understand that we can’t fit THE WORD into ANY box.
Jesus isn’t a set of ideas to be learned and promoted. He’s a person. He didn’t ask us to define or constrain Him.
He invited us to follow Him.
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Copyright 2008-2012 by Rich Dixon, All Rights Reserved. Used by permission.
Rich is an author and speaker. He is the author of: 
Relentless Grace: God’s Invitation To Give Hope Another Chance. Visit his web site www.relentlessgrace.com
Tags: Attitudes, Choices, God's Love, rebellion, salvation
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Wednesday, February 15th, 2012
Why would anyone choose to begin a week by thinking about the past?

Good question, but I’ll bet a lot of us do it. Many folks approach the opportunity of a new beginning while carrying the burden of the past. Weighed down by guilt and regret, they can’t see the promise and opportunity in front of them because they’re looking over their shoulder at a past they cannot change.
There are some things you can do about the past.
- You can learn from past successes and failures.
- You can apologize and ask forgiveness for mistakes.
- You can sometimes make amends for unfortunate choices.
Note that these positive acts do not actually occur in the past. They each require you to look forward, to determine what’s within your control right now.
I believe our spiritual enemy celebrates when we dwell in the past. As long as we’re there we’re prisoners confined by choices and events we can never change. In the prison of the past we cannot accept God’s grace and look forward in hope.
Let’s make this a week of new beginnings and a time to focus on the light of the present rather than the darkness of the past.
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Monday, February 13th, 2012
Some of us are old enough to recall Apollo 13 as something besides a movie. The mission launched on April 11, 1970 to complete the third manned moon landing. To outside observers, spaceflight had become almost commonplace. This appeared to be just another routine mission, but Apollo 13 reminded everyone that space exploration was anything but “routine.”
We all know the disaster that occurred when an oxygen tank explosion ripped a gaping hole in the spacecraft. Critical systems were crippled, the moon landing was aborted. I remember watching with everyone else during the following days as an army of engineers and support personnel did about a million things at once to save three astronauts and figure out how to get them safely back to Earth.
Apollo missions included planned course corrections necessary to hit precise navigation targets. Computer guidance normally accomplished these complex adjustments automatically, but the explosion damaged those systems. As the crew rounded the moon and began their return trip, their fragile ship drifted off course. They would have to manually alter their path. Using untested methods and calculations relayed from ground controllers, three men had to hit a tiny moving target more than a hundred thousand miles away.
To save their lives they had to set their ship in a trajectory that would bring them and the target to precisely the same point. Even a minor error would send them to their deaths.
I can’t imagine how impossible it must have seemed to hit a moving re-entry window less than thirty miles across from tens of thousands of miles away. The astronauts had to establish a curved trajectory that anticipated numerous variables and aimed at an empty spot in space. Their skill brought them and their target to exactly the same point at the same time.
I think that’s how God works most of the time. He makes seemingly small course corrections (one-degree miracles) that sometimes send us in directions that don’t make sense. It’s as if we’re headed into empty space.
I think that’s what happens as we do our best to listen and follow. He gently re-directs us and sets us on trajectories that bring us to places He can use us.
The problem, of course, is that we can’t possibly see what He sees. We try to draw straight lines and make simplistic cause-effect conclusions, but it’s not that simple or immediate.
Think of a time when you’ve found yourself in just the right place with just the right people in a setting no one could’ve anticipated, a time when something powerful happened that changed lives in a powerful way. And if you believe in God you know it didn’t happen by accident. It was a “divine appointment.”
Now imagine all that went into bringing those folks to that point, all the small decisions and twists and mistakes that placed people on trajectories that intersected in that tiny window of time. Imagine the endless course corrections, one small moment of each life building on thousands of others, all leading to that divine appointment.
What are your thoughts about trajectories and divine appointments?
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Copyright 2008-2012 by Rich Dixon, All Rights Reserved. Used by permission.
Rich is an author and speaker. He is the author of: 
Relentless Grace: God’s Invitation To Give Hope Another Chance. Visit his web site www.relentlessgrace.com
Tags: Attitudes, Choices, failure, God's Love, hardship, New Beginning, rebellion, Responsibility, self-will
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Friday, February 10th, 2012
That’s a pesky question: What’s a dream?
I think a lot these days about God-sized dreams. It’s a byproduct of talking about Rich’s Ride.
People ask questions. The questions make me think. Thinking leads to tougher questions more than to simple answers.
I think…therefore I am more perplexed than before.
So someone asked, “What do you mean by a dream?”
It’s a fair question. If I’m going to talk about dreams I ought to have at least a working definition. And I don’t—yet. Hence, the thinking.
My first idea was that dreams probably occur in your personal sweet spot, the space where gifts, passions, and needs intersect.
Activities that hit your sweet spot are sustainable even when they’re difficult. Success is more likely because you’re using your gifts. Perseverance is enhanced because you’re doing what you love and meeting your internally hardwired desire to serve others.
Sounds pretty good, huh? But then those nagging questions returned. Does every sweet spot activity qualify as a dream?
What do you think?
I enjoyed teaching. I was very good at it. And surely I served many needs as a teacher. Teaching kids was definitely in my sweet spot.
But teaching wasn’t a dream. In alternate circumstances I might have happily and successfully pursued other sweet spot careers. Dreams are something more specific.
If you’re expecting a magic answer, stop reading. I’d like to toss out some ideas and see what you might add.
I don’t think dreams are about size or scope. People often tell me they must not be dreamers because they have no desire to move to Africa or run triathlons. I think that doesn’t matter. Writing a book or blog to reach an audience that needs your message could be a dream, as might any number of apparently “ordinary” activities. One man’s boring job may be another’s lifetime dream.
- I think dreams involve risk. Personal, emotional, physical, or financial—pursuit of a dream takes you out of your comfort zone.
- So chasing a dream requires courage. When something important is at stake (risk) you’re going to experience fear of failure and loss. Courage confronts and embraces the fear and moves forward anyway.
- Dreams, I think, entail sacrifice of some sort.
Someone asked if an authentic dream must align with God’s will. I’d say definitely YES. I believe that’s the nature of the sweet spot, but I’m not sure.
I’m also convinced that dreams aren’t limited to a select few chosen individuals I suspect that God plants dreams in every heart.
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Copyright 2008-2012 by Rich Dixon, All Rights Reserved. Used by permission.
Rich is an author and speaker. He is the author of: 
Relentless Grace: God’s Invitation To Give Hope Another Chance. Visit his web site www.relentlessgrace.com
Tags: Attitudes, Choices, failure, New Beginning, Responsibility, strength
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Thursday, February 9th, 2012
By faith he [Abraham] dwelt in the land of promise as in a foreign country,
dwelling in tents with Isaac and Jacob, the heirs with him of the same promise;
for he waited for the city which has foundations, whose builder and maker is God (Hebrews 11:9-10, NKJV).
I’ve just finished writing a novel about a homeless family, and it really has heightened my awareness of the meaning of “home,” and all that goes with it.

I’m a home-body. Oh, I love traveling to fun places, but truthfully, there’s nowhere I’d rather be than at home. I like the comfortable surroundings, the familiar setting, the feeling of belonging, don’t you? And as I researched and wrote about people who no longer have a place to call home, I wrestled with being grateful for all I have while agonizing for those who don’t share my blessing.
The great patriarch Abraham had a way of putting it all in perspective. Undoubtedly a wealthy man, living a life of relative ease before God called him to leave the familiar behind and travel to an unknown destination, Abraham obeyed and struck out for parts unknown. No longer did he have a place to call home, as he and his household became nomads, living in tents. The Scriptures say he considered his new life as dwelling “in a foreign land” while “he waited for the city which has foundations, whose builder and maker is God.” Abraham knew that home wasn’t so much a place as it was a Person. Heaven, after all, is only heaven because God is there. The absence of God is what makes hell a place where no one wants to go.
Dr. Billy Graham just turned 93 and released a book called Nearing Home. Like Abraham, he knows he dwells in a foreign land, awaiting the call to “come home” to be with his Savior and Lord. “Home is where the heart is” isn’t just an old saying; it’s a deep-seated truth that tells a lot about us. Where is our heart? Is it here, in the shadow-lands, desperately trying to hold on to things we cannot keep…or is it already at home with God, just waiting for our spirit to be released to go there?
Whether we live in a mansion or a tent, or even on the street, home awaits. Can you hear the Father calling?
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Kathi Macias is a multi-award winning writer who has authored 30 books. 
“Beyond Me. Living a You-first Life in a Me-first World”
and

“Mothers of the Bible Speak to Mothers of Today”
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Wednesday, February 8th, 2012
Do you ever fumble tough questions?
I’ve told you before that my a favorite part of speaking is the Q&A sessions. It’s not because I do well.
Frequently someone asks a question that catches me completely by surprise. That happened last weekend at a church in a neighboring community. I told them about RICH’S RIDE and we had some time to talk about dogs and dreams and bike rides. A guy in the back raised his hand.
“I’ve always dreamed of doing a cross-country ride, but I have a traumatic brain injury. Would you advise me to play it safe or go for it?”
Now there’s a seemingly no-win question. If I tell him to play it safe I completely destroy my “live your God-sized dream” message. And you just know that if I tell him to go for it he’s going to crash and it’s going to be my fault.
I don’t know exactly what I said. Becky says it was good, so I won’t second-guess myself too much. But there are a few things I hope I’d say about tackling God-sized dreams.

There’s a difference between trust and recklessness. Some guys might be able to jump on a bike one morning and take off, trusting that they’ll handle whatever happens. A quadriplegic, or a guy with a traumatic brain injury, probably needs a bit more support.
Preparation doesn’t indicate a lack of faith. Scripture is filled with stories in which God prepared people, often for long periods, for specific purposes. Preparation is a good thing, because it allows us to be flexible once we begin the journey.
Some affirmation might be in order. I’m not sure this is universal, but I’ve found that I tend to resist and push away my dreams. It’s taken some gentle prompting and assurance from trusted friends to help me make a commitment.
Make sure it’s YOUR dream.I think it’s sad when someone does a mission trip or a triathlon to impress someone else or because they somehow believe they’ll earn God’s approval.
How can you know if it’s your dream? One test is to examine the preparation. In my case, I love riding and writing. I’d rather ride my bike and write than just about anything else. So training for the ride wasn’t a sacrifice at all—it was mostly just more fun.
You can’t remove all the risk. I wouldn’t trade the exhilaration I felt in this photo for all the safety in the world.
So, on balance, I’d say, “Go for it.”
That’s a partial list. What would you add?
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Copyright 2008-2012 by Rich Dixon, All Rights Reserved. Used by permission.
Rich is an author and speaker. He is the author of: 
Relentless Grace: God’s Invitation To Give Hope Another Chance. Visit his web site www.relentlessgrace.com
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Monday, February 6th, 2012
”Break up your unplowed ground;
for it is time to seek the LORD,
until he comes and showers righteousness on you.” Hosea 10:12:

What does the phrase “unplowed ground” bring to your mind? I think of missed opportunities to strengthen my relationship with the Lord, of times when I could have stood up for what was right and witnessed to others but didn’t, and how I haven’t experienced the depth of God’s presence and power in my life that I could. I also think of times when I felt closer to the Lord. Perhaps you feel the same way.
We cannot be stuck in the past with guilt and shame over what we haven’t done, have missed, or how we’ve become lukewarm or hardened. That wouldn’t help.
However, we can tell God we are sorry for “the unplowed ground” in our lives, accept his forgiveness and then with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength seek the Lord. Remember he promises to shower righteousness on us.
A former neighbor of mine used to get so excited about the Redskins’ football games that I could hear him screaming and cheering through the walls. No matter what his circumstances were, he never missed a game. Everyone knew he loved the Redskins. What would happen if each of us got that enthusiastic about breaking up “the unplowed ground” in our lives and seeking the Lord? Imagine the personal and church-wide revival that could take place.
Let’s take time this week to read God’s Word daily, to sit still and listen for his gentle whisper, and to allow him to transform in our lives.
Dear God, help me break up “the unplowed ground” in my life. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
Application: What will I do today to seek the Lord?
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Wednesday, February 1st, 2012
Have you ever thought about that?
Wherever Becky and I tell the story of RICH’S RIDE, we inevitably hear compelling stories in return. It’s as though hearing about our adventure releases others to share their own experiences.
I love listening to these stories. We often hang around for a long time afterward, just listening. It’s a wonderful experience, but there are a couple of disturbing aspects to many of the stories we hear.
One is a sense that our stories happen to us. Folks with this perspective speak in fatalistic, victim terminology, as though they had nothing to do with the direction of their lives.
We need to acknowledge that life isn’t simplistic, that events occur clearly beyond our control. I don’t begin to understand how God’s will meshes with human freedom of choice.
But to a large degree, each of us decides the nature of our story. We choose to dream—or not. We choose the habits that shape our character. One of my goals whenever I speak is to encourage folks to own their personal story, to believe they’re the author. I want people to believe in hope that allows them to dream and re-write a story with which they may not be satisfied.
It’s absolutely true that every person is a single choice away from a new story.
The other is that it’s all about “the power of positive thinking.” Perhaps it’s simply semantics, but positive thinking sounds like a platitude, pasting a pretend positive spin on decidedly negative events.
I’d rather talk about scripture’s promise that God causes ALL things to work together for good. God always honors His promises, and in that I find enduring, long-term hope.
I expect God’s faithfulness, no matter the circumstances, even when I can’t see it. I believe I can lean on His promises and continue to write a story of hope.
You’re the author of your story. Write a great one, one worth sharing.
Share your story with Christians in Recovery.
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