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Follow Me And Be Free

Tuesday, September 15th, 2009

An eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind. Ghandi

Yesterday I wrote about the pitfalls of Legislating Morality.

“Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them.” [Matthew 5:17]

I believe that Jesus meant exactly what He said. I believe that absolute truth exists. I believe that ethics and morals are not relative, that right is always right, and wrong is always wrong. I believe that Jesus is the source of truth, and that His model is the example we’re meant to emulate.

“FOLLOW ME.”

Jesus knew that the written law couldn’t sufficiently capture His truth. “I am the way, the truth, and the light.” The fullness of truth is expressed only in a personal relationship with Jesus.

It sounds so simple, as long as I don’t have to actually put it into practice. I want to follow, but I know I’ll fail. The best I can hope for is a poor but improving approximation of His desire for me.

    “You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’ But I tell you, Do not resist an evil person. If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. And if someone wants to sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well. If someone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles. Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you.

    “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your brothers, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” [Matthew 5:38-48]

HE CAN’T BE SERIOUS

Jesus was either the most naïve, impractical teacher in history or He knew something about us that’s beyond the world’s experience.

Do you think He was serious? I do.

By any worldly standard, Jesus didn’t win. He was unfairly persecuted and He refused to get even. I don’t want to follow that example. I want to see my opponents defeated, exposed, and humiliated. I demand fair treatment, and I don’t want to get even, I want to get ahead.

Turn the other cheek? You can’t possibly operate in this world with that sort of approach. People will take advantage of you. How can you possibly survive, much less thrive, if you respond to evil with love? Doesn’t He understand that loving my enemy leaves me vulnerable, that unscrupulous enemies will welcome the chance to strike at the second exposed cheek?

He understands perfectly, because He experienced it. Jesus’ followers will suffer injustice and persecution. He makes only one simple guarantee: if you do it His way, you’ll be free.

AN ENDLESS CYCLE

As long as I insist upon an eye for an eye, I’m a prisoner because the other guy dictates my behavior. If he’s kind, I can be kind. But if he’s nasty, I have to react with at least an equal level of nastiness. He gossips, I have to gossip. He hits, I have to hit back.

I may get even, and I may even win. But I’m never free, because my only choice is to react to the world on its terms.

One side misuses the process and stretches the truth, so the other side misuses the process and stretches the truth to keep up. They yell, so we have to yell louder or we’ll lose the argument. Right and wrong don’t matter; you can’t let the other side get ahead. It’s the stuff of politics and punditry and politicized pulpits, and we have to follow our side’s leaders or we’ll lose.

But we’re following the wrong leaders.

Violence demands violence. Disrespect must be answered disrespectfully. Suspicion requires more suspicion. And on and on it goes, a death spiral of eyes for eyes and teeth for teeth until with world is littered with toothless blind people lashing out at one another in darkness.

And in this cycle, the real enemy, the enemy of our souls, celebrates. Followers of Jesus succumb to the world’s temptation and surrender their power to choose love. You can almost hear him whispering, “Surely God doesn’t really mean that you’re supposed to be kind and love when others do obvious wrong. Surely He doesn’t want you to let evil ideas win.” And he chuckles with glee as we bow to his subtle twisting of Jesus’ simple words.

WHAT DO WE DO?

Jesus asks us to stop the cycle. He asks us to be different from the tax collectors and pagans. He asks us to step above slavery to the world’s ways and follow His way. He asks us to serve those who intend to harm us. In His simple, naïve words, He offers the keys to the prison.

    * The Pharisees command obedience to the letter of the law. Jesus says, “My yoke is easy and my burden is light.”.
    * The Romans kill their enemies. Jesus forgives the soldiers who drive nails into His body.
    * The enemy of our souls tells us that God wants us to win the world’s battles. Jesus asks us to look to a kingdom beyond this broken world.

It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. [Galatians 5:1]

Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. [2 Corinthians 3:17]

Jesus says simply, “Follow me.” He doesn’t promise that our side will win, or that the world will be fair, or that people won’t take advantage of us. Following Jesus is naïve and impractical, except for one thing.

When you follow Jesus, you get to be free.

Why is the simple message of Jesus so difficult to implement?

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Dixon
Copyright 2009 by Rich Dixon, All Rights Reserved. Used by permission.
Rich is an author and speaker. He is the author of:
Relentless Grace: God’s Invitation To Give Hope Another Chance
. Visit his web site www.relentlessgrace.com

The Bear and Me

Thursday, July 23rd, 2009

One sunny weekend a group of friends went on a picnic and decided that since the picnic was in a familiar location, they would allow the kids to play and have fun away from the picnic site as they normally would.

As a precaution, they told all of the kids to stay away from the tree line because there were bears in the woods. All of the kids agreed and promised they would not get close to the tree line. Off they went wearing backpacks, laughing and having a great time.

Out in the filed they did not realize how close they were getting to the tree line so one of the little girls warned everybody that they should move away. All of they kids started to move away to safety and continued to have a great time. One of the boys was an ‘I’m gonna do things my way’ kind of kid, so he ignored the warning.

The little girl shouted to him to watch out because he was getting too close to the trees. He looked back at her and said ‘don’t be such a chicken, there are no bears in there. Our parents just wanted to scare us. I see a fruit tree and I’m going to get one of the fruits’ Once again she warned him to come back but he ignored her.

Just as sure as she warned him, a bear saw them and began to head in their direction. They began to run as fast as they could shouting ‘a bear is coming, a bear is coming’. Up a hill through the stream, they ran and ran.

The little girl was running beside him but all of a sudden, she stopped and took her backpack off. She changed from her hiking books to her cross training shoes. The little boy stopped also and said, ‘what’s wrong with you, a bear is coming’. Never once did she say to him ‘it’s your fault we are in harms way. She stayed focused on what she needed to do for her safety.

She laced her shoes and said to him. ‘I don’t have to worry about the bear, all I have to do is run faster than you’. Off she went leaving him far behind her.

It might be difficult sometimes to remember that there is a solution to our problems even if it is not the solution we want or would choose ourselves. God does not give us solutions we like. God gives us the solution we need to help us grow in faith and understanding of the power of grace.

A positive attitude is important if we are to have a chance to come through the trials and tribulation we all face in recovery. Keep your eyes on the solution and be true to your self.

Humility, amends, positive thinking and asking for help are important tools of recovery. When we can stop doing the things that are not in the will of God our recovery can be a reward unto itself.

We can recovery and live a spirit filled life if we chose to listen to the messages about how to stay safe and honest in our recovery.

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Cathey
Copyright 2009 by Jimmy Cathey, all rights reserved. Used by permission.
Jimmy Cathey is a substance abuse counselor and educator. He founded Support Systems, a substance abuse education program that helps families learn about the negative consequences of addiction and the rewards of life in recovery. He was a staff consultant to small and emerging non profit organizatons at Management Center in San Francisco, California.

Are You a Stumbling Block?

Friday, July 17th, 2009

Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumblingblock or an occasion to fall in his brother’s way. Romans 14:13 King James Version

On August 14, 1980, I humbled myself and admitted that I was a sinner. I repented of my sins and asked God to forgive me and invited Jesus into my heart to be my personal Saviour. The cleansing atoning blood of Jesus was applied to my heart for the forgiveness of my sins. I was saved but I was a stumblingblock to those around me. I was very judgmental. Not only was I a stumblingblock, I was also a hypocrite because I had not forgiven the people who had hurt me.

We read in the Bible “And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye” (Matthew 7: 3 – 5).

Yes, I was saved but I still harbored unforgiveness, bitterness and resentment in my heart for those who had hurt me. I really was a hypocrite. However, before you start judging me, search your own heart and see if you are a hypocrite. Have you really forgiven those who have hurt you? Have you forgiven them from your heart or did you just give them lip service when you told them that you had forgiven them? What about it, are you a stumblingblock to your family, your friends and to those around you?

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JoanneCopyright 2009 by Joanne Lowe, all rights reserved.
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Are You Tending Your Garden?

Thursday, February 26th, 2009

Recovery is much like tending our own garden. A garden needs water, fertilizer, sunshine, good soil and a lot of attention by the gardener. We, as Christians and recovering people need:

  • the water of prayer, meditation, and communing with God
  • the fertilizer of fellowship
  • the Sonshine of resting in Him (letting go and letting God)
  • the rich soil of God’s Word in which to firmly anchor our roots. Not only must we read the Word but we must *understand* it and *actively apply* it to our own lives. Roots must be anchored in the soil, they must take up the nourishment and then send it to the entire system of the plant so it may flourish.
  • a lot of attention by us, as our own gardeners, to remove all weeds that appear.

Working the 12 steps, being accountable to ourselves, God and others, confessing it when we blow it and repenting (coming back to God wanting to change ourselves for the better) is all part of the gardening process. It is only while we are actively watering, fertilizing and weeding that we can expect an abundant harvest–to reap the rewards of our faith and recovery.

Gardens also go through seasons and the changes related to them. We grow more quickly or more slowly depending upon how we are planted, if we are getting enough Son-light, etc. Everything grows in its own season and both the beautiful flowers as well as the pesky weeds will continue to come back year after year. This means we must continually do the maintenance routine.

The weeds in our lives look so pretty at times. How often I have been fooled by those “pretty” flowers in my garden. With 20-20 hindsight

I see my foolishness. But at the time temptation got the best of me. Even the devil himself can appear as an angel of light. When we tend to our garden, we have to keep our gardening manual (our Bible) out for cross referencing and identification! Those weeds (once identified) are a lot easier to pluck out when they are small. Once they grow, they develop deep roots, and. they are next to impossible to remove. We can tear away the heads of the weeds but the roots remain only to develop a new head.

Each time we ignore those little thoughts that enter our mind, we are giving them the opportunity to take root in our souls. Satan says, “Its OK, these are just thoughts!” but Jesus says, “If you even lust after someone in your heart you have already sinned.”

I used to have a huge vegetable garden. In the spring we would till the soil, clearing it of all weeds, carefully plant the seeds, water them, do the weeding and all went well until about July when the weeds would come in with a vengeance. The speed with which they grew and literally took over the garden was incredible. It took so much hard labor and sweat to try and keep up with it. But at the end of the day when we would go out and pick things for dinner it was all worth it.

That is the way it is with recovery. Some days I think, “Oh Lord, I just can not keep up with my weeds!” But then there is the harvest each day, when I have gotten through another 24 hours.

Then it is all worth it.

Copyright 1992-2009 by S. O. Brennan

Are They Acceptable?

Thursday, January 29th, 2009

Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart,
be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer.
Psalm 19:14 King James Version

We think that nobody knows the things we are thinking or the words that we whisper. However, Jesus knows everything! He can see into our hearts and see the things we keep hidden from people. He knows what we are thinking and He hears the words that we whisper so softly that nobody else can hear. Are our words and our thoughts acceptable to Jesus? Do they bring joy to His heart or do they bring sadness to His heart?

We read in the Bible “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he” (Proverbs 23: 7a). Are our hearts filled with criticism, sarcasm, unforgiveness and judgment for others or are they filled with unconditional love, forgiveness and compassion for people? Do our families and friends see Jesus in our smiles and hear Him in our words when we talk? Are we drawing them closer to Jesus or are we turning them away from Him by our hateful actions and words?

Heavenly Father, search our hearts and if there is anything that is displeasing to You and hurts You, please forgive us and cleanse our hearts of those hateful things that bring shame and disgrace to You. May we be children that bring joy and happiness to You instead of children that hurt You and make You sad. Thank You for loving us unconditionally and for being a God of mercy, grace, compassion and forgiveness. Thank You for the gift of Your beloved Son, Jesus. Amen.

JoanneCopyright 2008 by Joanne Lowe, all rights reserved.
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Get Off the Fence

Monday, April 28th, 2008

“I know thy works, that thou art neither cold nor hot: I would thou wert cold or hot. So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth.”
Revelation 3: 15, 16 King James Version

Someone made this comment to me the other day “It is either too cold or too hot.” It reminded me of our Scripture for this devotion. There are so many people who are straddling the fence when it comes to deciding to serve Jesus and to make the right decisions. Jesus says that He wants us to be either cold or hot and not lukewarm.

I believe if we will listen with our hearts we will hear Him say to us “Get off the fence. Make up your mind if you are going to live for Me or if you are going to live for satan. If you are going to live for Me, then you need to do what I tell you to do, not what you want to do.”

The story of the ruler is a perfect illustration “Now when Jesus heard these things, he said unto him, Yet lackest thou one thing: sell all that thou hast, and distribute unto the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come follow me. And when he heard this, he was very sorrowful: for he was very rich” (Luke 18: 22, 23).

Jesus died for us so that we may have our sins forgiven and cleansed by His precious blood which He shed for us on the cruel cross of Calvary. He has done so much for us and He asks so little of us in return. Yet many times we are not willing to do what He asks us to do.

It may be that He asks us to do something that will take us out of our comfort zone and we are not willing to leave our comfort zone. We need to remember that Jesus left His comfort zone in Heaven with His Father to come to earth to be beaten, abused, mutilated, spat upon, cursed, mocked, rejected, and crucified on a cross of horror and torture. When He speaks to our hearts and tells us to do something for Him, we should do it immediately and stop straddling the fence of indecision.

We read in the Bible “And Jesus, walking by the sea of Galilee, saw two brethren, Simon called Peter, and Andrew his brother, casting a net into the sea; for they were fishers. And he saith unto them, Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men. And they straightway left their nets, and followed him. And going on from thence, he saw other two brethren, James the son of Zebedee, and John his brother, in a ship with Zebedee their father, mending their nets; and he called them. And they immediately left the ship and their father, and followed him” (Matthew 4: 18 ? 22).

Jesus is still calling us today to be fishers of men. Why is it that we will get up very early in the morning to go fishing and stay in the boat all day patiently waiting for a fish to take the bait but we won?t answer the call of Jesus to be fishers of men? I believe it all comes down to how much we love Him. It is so true that our level of service to Jesus depends on our level of love for Him.

If we love Him enough, we will shut off the television, or better still not even turn it on, and send emails and make telephone calls to people who are hurting. Again, how much do you love Him and how much are you willing to do for Him? Are you willing to get out of your comfort zone and follow Him and become a fisher of men on a full time basis and not just when it is convenient to you?

Copyright 2008 by Joanne Lowe, all rights reserved. Used by permission.

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The Weeding Never Stops

Thursday, April 10th, 2008

“Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” Ephesians 4: 31-32 King James Version

I asked someone yesterday how her garden and flowers were coming along. She replied “It seems I just get one area weeded and it is time to weed another area.” I immediately thought about how God has to constantly weed our hearts to get rid of the bitterness, resentment, jealousy, hatred, criticism and other things that hurt Him and bring shame to Him.

Many times we start our day with joy, peace and happiness but because of crises and difficult situations that arise and critical remarks that people make to us, we sometimes allow these weeds to spring up again in our hearts. Once again God has to weed our hearts so we will be able to serve Him effectively and bring forth fruits that honor Him. “Being filled with the fruits of righteousness, which are by Jesus Christ, unto the glory and praise of God” (Philippians 1: 11).

Have you ever heard someone say “Why should I forgive them? It wasn’t my fault. It was their fault.” More important, have you ever said that to someone? I have said that to people many times in my life until one day it finally penetrated my heart that God is kind and gracious enough to forgive me time after time when I fail Him. It hurts Him when I refuse to forgive the ones who have hurt me. God also reminded me that I hurt people also and that if I want them to forgive me, I had better be willing to forgive them.

Jesus gave us the greatest object lesson that anyone could ever give on forgiveness. “And when they were come to the place, which is called Calvary, there they crucified him, and the malefactors, one on the right hand, and the other on the left. Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. And they parted his raiment, and cast lots” (Luke 23: 33, 34).

How dare you and I not forgive people when they hurt us when God is merciful and gracious to forgive us when we don’t deserve His forgiveness? One day, all of us will stand before a Holy God and give an account of the way we treated one another.

Have you allowed the weeds of resentment, jealousy, criticism, hatred and bitterness to choke the fruits of the Holy Spirit? If so, I urge you to go to our Heavenly Father who is the Master Gardener and ask Him to forgive you.

Copyright 2008 by Joanne Lowe, all rights reserved.