“While he was yet speaking, there came also another, and said, Thy sons and thy daughters were eating and drinking wine in their eldest brotherâ’s house: And, behold, there came a great wind from the wilderness, and smote the four corners of the house, and it fell upon the young men, and they are dead; and I only am escaped alone to tell thee. Then Job arose, and rent his mantle, and shaved his head, and fell down upon the ground, and worshiped. And said, Naked came I out of my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return thither: the Lord gave, and the Lord hath taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord. In all this Job sinned not, nor charged God foolishly.” Job 1: 8-22 KJV
One of the most tragic and heartbreaking things in life and one of the most difficult burdens we have to bear is when we lose a child. There is more than one way to lose a child. We can lose our children by death, by distance of miles and by their disobedience and rejection of God. For some parents, they have been grieving over their children for many years because their children have strayed away from God.
Then there are parents like myself, who due to circumstances beyond their control, had to place a child for adoption. That is a very painful and heartbreaking decision to make but sometimes it is necessary for the welfare of the child. When someone has to place a child for adoption, please don’t judge them and criticize them; pray for them because only Jesus knows the depths of the pain they have to bear. Only Jesus knows the tears of grief that they shed during the long and lonely nights.
I’m reminded of a pastor friend who said in one of his sermons “If there is a problem, don’t bring it up for discussion unless you are willing to be part of the solution.” I think we do that a lot of times with difficult situations and problems. Instead of being part of the solution, we try to pass the responsibility to someone else. Sometimes it is because there is nothing that we can do about it, but other times it is simply because we don’t want to get involved. Thank God that Jesus didn’t pass our salvation to someone else because nobody else could have satisfied our Heavenly Father’s requirement for our salvation.
I remember like it happened today, the pain and heartache I felt the day I signed the adoption papers for my beloved daughter, April Dawn. It took four people to get her out of my arms after I signed those papers. They were supposed to have placed her in another room so that I would not see her when I left the agency. However, when I started to open the door to leave, somebody had put her stroller right by the door. I walked out that door backwards looking at her precious face. I went to a department store and stood there for two hours in the infant department holding a beautiful red dress. It’s a wonder that they didn’t have me locked up because I’m sure that I looked suspicious.
There has not been one day go by that I haven’t missed my precious daughter and prayed that she will come to know Jesus and to accept Him as her personal Saviour. I pray that her adoptive parents raised her to love Jesus. That is what keeps me going; to know that if she has accepted Jesus as her personal Saviour, then we will be reunited in Heaven and will be together for all eternity.
It is very painful for me to write about this, but I do it so others will know that Jesus does understand when it feels like we can’t take another step or give another smile. He does care when our hearts are breaking. When we are sad and hurting, His heart is also sad and He hurts with us because He not only is our Saviour; He is our compassionate friend, a friend who never leaves us, not even for one minute. He gently and tenderly wipes the tears from our eyes and from our hearts with His kisses of understanding, unconditional love and compassion.
If you will read the book of Job, you will see that Job lost his children but he didn’t blame God. How often do we hear about marriages breaking up because of the death of a child? Instead of encouraging each other, the husband and wife accuse each other. If ever we needed to hold on to one another like glue, it is when we lose a child. We should take hold of our husband or wife’s hand and pray for each other. Above everything, we should never blame God because our children belong to Him. He gives them to us in trust to raise for Him, but they are His and He misses them when they go astray a lot more than we miss them.
Thank God for the restorer of broken hearts, our precious Saviour, Jesus! Not only does Jesus restore our broken hearts, He can restore our broken marriages, our broken families and our broken lives. If we will put our trust in Him and ask Him to help us, He will be faithful to put the pieces of our broken lives back together again. However, we have to go to Him in faith believing that He will restore them.
There is nothing too hard for Jesus! He will bring us through every heartache and trial victoriously if we will keep our hearts in right standing with Him. We can’t expect Him to, and indeed it is very arrogant of us to ask Him to help us if we have something in our hearts that displeases Him. We must confess anything that we have in our heart that brings disgrace and shame to Him.
If your heart is broken today, run into the outstretched arms of Jesus. He is eagerly waiting for you because He longs to take away the sadness and hurt from your heart and replace it with His understanding, tenderness and compassion. There is no one like Jesus! No one loves us like Jesus loves us. He is a friend beyond compare!
Thank You, Jesus, for loving us and for dying for us. Thank You that You cared enough to walk that long and lonely road to Calvary and there allow them to crucify You. He took your place on the cross. He suffered and bled and died so that you may be forgiven, saved, redeemed and cleansed in His precious atoning blood. Have you said “yes” to Jesus? If so, have you given Him all of your heart, all of your time and everything that you have?
~ Joanne Lowe