In All things Love

February 8th, 2010

three

In essentials, unity.
In non-essentials, liberty.
In all things, love.
~ Augustine

Yeah, but what are the “essentials”?

Yesterday I asked the question Who’s “They”? in the context of our propensity to draw lines and categorize ourselves in terms of we and they. Then I ran across this familiar Augustine quote.

It made me wonder why, as followers of Jesus, we’re so quick to point out distinctions and differences.

It’s awfully easy to imagine that we have a corner on truth, that our interpretation of scripture is flawless, and that our customs and traditions are just a bit superior to others. We’re a culture of competition. We’re taught that success demands that we stand out and differentiate ourselves from the crowd.

ESSENTIALS

I’ve used Augustine’s three-line admonition as a discussion prompt in several settings. I can count on the conversation taking one of two general directions.

What are essentials? This question initiates a process of articulating shared, central doctrines. It directs our focus to the places we agree rather than the differences that usually consume our attention. It’s a way to think about THE CHURCH rather than our local or even denominational churches. This sort of discussion reminds us that traditions around worship styles and liturgy don’t really divide us.

What’s the difference between essential and important? It’s interesting to define pressing issues on which committed followers of Jesus may disagree. Some political or public policy issues might fall into this discussion. While we may advocate passionate positions on these kinds of matters, this discussion reminds us that sincere Christians don’t always subscribe to a monolithic view.

THE THIRD LINE

Both are interesting topics, but what I find curious is that the third line almost never receives much attention. We become immersed in list-making, intent on defining and defending a particular list of absolutes or understanding someone else’s choices.

Doctrines, customs, and traditions are the color, texture, and flavor that articulate identity and give character to individual communities. They’re the spice in an otherwise bland, vanilla world, and they’re wonderful tools for defining and growing individual churches and attracting those who share our preferences.

Political debates, policy decisions, and community involvement give relevance to our faith in the world. We must always advocate powerfully and effectively for the poor and the marginalized.

But what about the third line? I’d maintain that without the third statement, the first two become largely irrelevant.

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing … And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. [1 Corinthians 13:1-3, 13]

Essential, non-essential, important, non-important—without love, my lists and debates are just so much meaningless noise.

That third line is the center. It’s THE essential, the single defining characteristic of the circle.

Agape—self-sacrificial, unconditional love—is what keeps my work and prayer and effort from becoming empty, unimportant nothingness.

I invite you to join me in focusing on the third line.

Are you like me? Do you ever get so intent on doing stuff that you forget the third line?

When Jesus was asked to identify the greatest commandment, the first word He uttered was, “Love … “ [Matthew 22:36]

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Are You Tired? Sick? Discouraged?

February 5th, 2010

“…he whose might is his god” (Habakkuk 1:17, ASV).

It isn’t often that such a short phrase of scripture so impacts my heart, but since running across these six words in my reading of Habakkuk earlier this week, I haven’t been able to put them out of my mind.

Is there anything more tragic than making our own limited strength, or “might,” our god? And yet the Bible tells us that many do. To be honest, nearly everyone who doesn’t depend on God ultimately resorts to depending on his own strength. How foolish can we possibly be? The verses surrounding Habakkuk 1:17 tell of the destruction of those who make such a poor choice.

Ever been tired? Sick? Discouraged? Weary? Depressed? If so, you know the limits of your own strength. Each time we experience once of those negative emotions or physical conditions, we reach the limits of our own might, the fallacy of our god if indeed we have not placed our faith in Christ. Wisdom calls to us at that point to reach beyond such earthly limitations and grasp the infallible, eternal, omnipotent might of a faithful and limitless God. And that, beloved, is the choice laid before all mankind. Will we wisely rely on the might of the one true God, or foolishly try to stand upon our own feet of clay?

May the joy of the Lord be your strength today, as you make the right choice each step of the way!

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I’m Sorry

February 4th, 2010

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. [1 John 1:9]

sorry I’m sorry.

Those words don’t always come easily, and sometimes really meaning them is harder than saying them. But what happens once you’ve mustered the courage to apologize?

In thirty-five years of working with adolescents, I learned that they often perceived “I’m sorry” as a sort of get-out-of-jail-free card. “Why do I have to stay after school? I said I was sorry.”

I can’t imagine how many times I explained that, while I appreciated and accepted the apology, that didn’t automatically eliminate the consequences of a poor choice.

“But can’t you just forgive me?”

“Of course I forgive you. But that has nothing to do with you hanging around until you finish that incomplete assignment.”

“But if I do that, will I still get full credit?”

“No, you know there’s a penalty for late work.”

“But why do you have to punish me?”

And it seemed that no matter how I explained it, they could never quite acknowledge that it wasn’t about punishment. Mistakes have consequences, and sometimes those consequences can’t be repaired or erased no matter how sorry you feel.

Every conversation ended with some variation of the universal adolescent mantra: “That’s not fair!”

A MISTAKE

I’m thinking about this because recently I made a mistake that diminished my credibility with a valued colleague. I didn’t intend any harm; it was an “honest mistake.” Lack of judgment and inexperience resulted in a poor decision.

I wanted to defend my choice, or blame someone else, or discount the seriousness of the offense. But after some rather convoluted mental gymnastics, I had to face the simple fact that I was wrong.

So I swallowed hard, closed my eyes, and uttered the dreaded words: “I’m sorry.”

I wanted that to be the end of the matter. After all, it was an honest mistake, and I said I was sorry.

But my apology doesn’t wipe out the consequences of the offense. Like my students, I needed to fix what I could fix and acknowledge that some damage couldn’t be repaired. “I’m sorry” doesn’t magically restore trust or heal physical or emotional wounds.

I’ve also been wondering about another aspect of this incident: Does my apology entitle me to forgiveness?

“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. [Luke 6:37]

I’m not entitled to anything simply because I made an error and confessed. Forgiveness is the prerogative of the offended party. It’s not earned or deserved.

Forgiveness can only be granted by grace.

Sometimes I forget that. I’m so accustomed to believing that my sins are forgiven through Jesus that I lose sight of the fact that forgiveness isn’t a right. It isn’t automatic, it isn’t free, and I certainly don’t deserve it. And yet, there it is. Each time I go to God and confess that I’ve fallen short, He forgives freely and completely.

So, while I hope my friend forgives my error, when I apologize to God I don’t need to wonder how He’ll respond.

CONSEQUENCES

How many times have you and I had the same conversation with God that I had with my students? How often do we equate His unconditional forgiveness with our selfish desire to avoid facing our own consequences? How many times have we cried, “It’s not fair”?

He turns the page, glues it shut, and grants us yet another new beginning. And then He walks with us through whatever mess we’ve created. He doesn’t magically wipe away the tears and the pain, but He does promise that they won’t be wasted.

He redeems them. He works for good in even our most sordid circumstances. And He never quits, no matter how many times we repeat the cycle.

We don’t deserve those new beginnings, and we’re not entitled to them. But they’re ours, through grace, because He loves us.

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Rich is an author and speaker. He is the author of:
Relentless Grace: God’s Invitation To Give Hope Another Chance
. Visit his web site www.relentlessgrace.com

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Whatever it Takes

February 3rd, 2010

What

Does your cause justify “whatever it takes”?

This is Black History Month, so my question’s motivated by thoughts of America’s struggle with civil rights for African-Americans. But it applies equally to questions of national sovereignty, disability issues, or gathering support for relief to earthquake victims in Haiti.

Is any cause so right, so just, so morally imperative that it justifies “whatever it takes” to advance its mission?

My answer is, “No.”

WHAT IF …

I’m not a big fan of hypothetical dilemmas. It’s far too easy to stake out a position when I don’t actually have to face the consequences of my choice. In a hypothetical world it’s too easy to manipulate or ignore important variables in order to justify a pre-conceived conclusion.

I’ve learned that “If I were you, I would …” is usually a good signal to stop talking. I’m not you, I don’t have to walk in your shoes (or, for me, roll in your tracks).

I respect those who’ve actually been there, fought the battles, and endured the trials. It’s just too easy, from my position of safety, to second-guess those who’ve really confronted a difficult choice.

I can’t claim to understand the frustration of those who are oppressed and brutalized. I can’t state emphatically what I would do if I confronted the desperation of starvation or the reality of a life-or-death battle. I know I haven’t always faced my own trials well, so I’m hesitant to pontificate about what I’d do in far more difficult circumstances.

We’ve all encountered these simplistic hypotheticals. In the late sixties I recall saying that if I were ever drafted and ordered to Viet Nam, I’d refuse to go. That was an easy position to advocate from the safety of my college deferment, but I doubt if my convictions about the war would have held quite so firmly in the face of an actual choice.

TRUE NORTH

Perhaps the best I can do is identify what I hope I would do when confronted with any dilemma. I’ve been helped a great deal in this regard by Gus Lee. Gus talks about identifying “True North” principles, those central values that serve as the compass during a storm.

Since I’m relatively new to this inquiry, I float my true-north principles as a work in progress, but here’s what I’m working with right now:

  • Agape: self-sacrificial, unconditional love
  • Courage: the willingness to act for right regardless of risk
  • Grace-and-Truth: a cyclical process of encountering truth, acknowledging my faults, seeking forgiveness, and then encountering truth once more.

I make no claim that these are the “right” principles or that I even approach living according to them. For me they represent an ideal toward which I can strive.

These principles are the basis for my belief that no cause justifies “whatever it takes.” I’ll close by throwing out three observations, and I’d love to hear your thoughts.

  • Causes come and go, while true-north principles endure.
  • It seems to me that it’s a lot harder to believe in and stick to principles than to causes.
  • In the long run, truly enduring principles are more effective than situational, whatever-it-takes approaches.

What do you think?

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Rich is an author and speaker. He is the author of:
Relentless Grace: God’s Invitation To Give Hope Another Chance
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Only Slightly Evil

February 2nd, 2010

Avoid every kind of evil. 1 Thessalonians 5:22

Some professors are accustomed to think of some things as ‘only slightly evil‘, while other things are considered as most vile in their eyes.

They appear to think, that if they keep themselves from the worse kind of sins–then they need not be so watchful against the minor forms of evil. They will not lie, nor steal, nor swear, nor do other things which would brand them as ‘wicked’ in the eyes of the community. But meanwhile they are satisfied to be ungentle, unkind, selfish, bad-tempered, and worldly!

But Paul’s exhortation is, “Avoid every kind of evil.” We are not to pick out certain things and condemn these alone as evil, abstaining from them; meanwhile indulging in pet vices and sinful habits of our own. Whatever is sinful in even the slightest way–is to be avoided!

(~ J. R. Miller, “Christian Essentials” 1904)

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The Secret of Development of Christian character

February 1st, 2010

The loss of all confidence in ones self, is the first essential in the believer’s growth in grace! The Christian, conscious of his own frailty, will turn unto the Lord for strength.  “That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak–then I am strong.” 2 Corinthians 12:10

There must be consciousness of our weakness, before we shall turn to the Lord for help. While the Christian imagines that he is sufficient in himself; while he imagines that by the mere force of his will, that he shall resist temptation; while he has any confidence in the flesh–then, like ‘boasting Peter’–so we shall certainly fail and fall. The plain fact is–that of ourselves we are utterly unable to practice a single precept, or obey a single command that is set before us in the Scriptures! Apart from Christ–we can do nothing! (John 15:5). The promise of God is, “He gives power to the faint; and strengthens the powerless!” Isaiah 40:29

The secret of development of Christian character, is the realization of our own powerlessness, and the consequent turning unto the Lord for help. A consciousness of our powerlessness, should cast us upon Him who has all power.

“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in times of trouble!” Psalm 46:1

(Arthur Pink, “Yhe Sovereignty of God

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How To “Get Over It”

January 29th, 2010

failure

Do you ever just feel “down” for no really good reason?

I’m there right now. A friend disappointed me. A project seems stalled. Cold weather makes everything about my injury a little more difficult. Nothing really major or life-threatening to point at, but somehow everything just seems a bit gray at the moment.

I don’t like the feeling, and I don’t want to just complain about it or wait for someone else to make it go away. I’m not a big fan of simplistic admonishments to “just snap out of it.”

So I’m thinking about some specific strategies for banishing this generalized “less than partly cloudy” feeling.

I’ll share a few of my own and invite you to jump in with some additions in the comments.

Give some gifts you can’t purchase. I’m thinking of things like a sincere compliment, credit for a great idea, a second chance, or the benefit of the doubt. Perhaps that friend is stressed or didn’t intend her actions as I perceived them.

Share something. My mom used to phrase this a bit more bluntly: Make yourself useful. Offer a thoughtful comment on a blog post. Find an interesting, helpful article and forward it to people via Facebook, email, Twitter, or other networks. Charles Leadbeater said, “In the past, you were what you owned. Now you are what you share.”

Intentionally say “Tell me more about that” … and mean it. Who knows, I might learn something useful from someone else’s perspective. Perhaps I can help someone solve a problem or clarify a thought or idea. At the very least, this brings me into the present, which is the only place I can really exert any influence.

Encourage. To me, that means giving courage to others and inspiring them to do something great.

Help others to see the rainbow. In the Bible, the rainbow was the symbol of hope. Help someone discover the glimmer of hope they can’t quite perceive.

Genuinely celebrate someone’s success. This consciously reminds me that I believe in abundance. Your success and happiness does not come at my expense. We all benefit when the circle expands, so why not take time to enjoy others’ accomplishments?

Forgive. Frequently my own gloomy mood reflects resentment over some real or imagined grievance. Some say “Don’t get mad, get even.” I’m better off with “Don’t get mad, get over it.”

You see the pattern, right? A friend disappointed me. My project isn’t going as I planned. The weather makes is harder for me.

SOLUTION

Recognize that it’s not about me. I am not the center of the universe. My expectations, projects, and comfort are not what it’s all about.

When I acknowledge this truth I re-focus on giving rather than getting, serving rather than being served. I see myself accurately as humble steward rather than entitled owner. I get back to my core values of courage, truth, and grace.

The truth that the world’s not Rich-centered reminds me why I’m doing all of this in the first place.

Do you ever experience that general “bummed” feeling? What’s your strategy for getting out of it as quickly as possible?

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Rich is an author and speaker. He is the author of:
Relentless Grace: God’s Invitation To Give Hope Another Chance
. Visit his web site www.relentlessgrace.com

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The Master Gardener

January 28th, 2010

“When any one heareth the word of the kingdom, and understandeth it not, then cometh the wicked one, and catcheth away that which was sown in his heart.  This is he which received seed by the way side.  But he that received the seed into stony places, the same is he that heareth the word, and anon with joy receiveth it.” Matthew 13:19-20 King James Version

When we accept Jesus as our personal Saviour, He plants the seed of unconditional love in our hearts.  As we yield to His control and let Him have His way in our hearts and lives, the seed of love that He planted grows and we start loving others unconditionally.

Jesus melts our cold and hardened hearts.  “A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh” (Ezekiel 36:26, 27).  Thank God for Jesus, the Master Gardener.

One of the definitions for landscape gardener in Webster’s Dictionary is “a person who is engaged in the development and decorative planting of gardens and grounds”.  Jesus is engaged in the developing and decorative planting of our hearts.  It is the desire of His heart that we love one another unconditionally as He loves us.

I think sometimes we forget that not only does He want us to love unconditionally; He has commanded us to love one another unconditionally.  We would do well to remember that is is not an option to love unconditionally, it is a commandment.  Can we honestly say that we are loving others as He has commanded us to love them?

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Are We Comforters or Are We Selfish

January 27th, 2010

“Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.” Philippians 2:4 King James Version

Years ago, someone came to me and told me that her friend had died.  Instead of comforting her, I asked her to take me to the hospital because I was depressed and thinking only about myself.  I was so caught up in my own troubles, I didn’t hear the pain in her voice and I failed to comfort her.

I was very selfish that day.  Yes, I was hurting but she was also hurting.  I wonder how often we fail to recognize the pain in someone’s voice.  Not only did I hurt her that day, but I also hurt God and broke His heart because I didn’t comfort her as He comforts me.

May God forgive us for not comforting people as He comforts us. (2 Corinthians 1:3, 4)  How terrible it would be if we would tell Jesus we are hurting and He didn’t care.  Thank God that Jesus really cares about us.  He cares when we are hurting.  When we cry, He weeps with us and when we are happy, He rejoices with us.

Let’s start comforting people with the comfort that God comforts us.  If we want people to be there for us when we are hurting, we had better be there for them when they are hurting.  This statement is so true “You get back what you give out”.  Are you comforting people as God comforts you or are you so wrapped up in your own troubles like I was that you don’t care about other people?

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Surrender

January 26th, 2010

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“Surrender” isn’t a popular notion in our culture. We don’t like to lose, and surrender usually connotes admitting some sort of defeat.

But there’s another reason to surrender. Sometimes you simply conclude that a particular battle isn’t worth fighting, that the possible gains simply don’t justify the pain and sacrifice required. It’s the acknowledgment and acceptance of circumstances that can’t be altered. It’s the wisdom to spend your energy on what can be changed rather that battling what cannot.

I learned about this sort of surrender when I finally said something obvious:

God, I’m not you. I want my life to be about what You want, not about what I want.

This isn’t a defeat, it isn’t losing. Surrendering myself and my limited vision to God’s will is a win. I can stop trying to do it my way, acknowledge the reality the God’s bigger than I am, and give myself the opportunity to be what I was designed to be.

What would you like to surrender this week?

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Rich is an author and speaker. He is the author of:
Relentless Grace: God’s Invitation To Give Hope Another Chance
. Visit his web site www.relentlessgrace.com

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